Mom Tales

It’s ok, You’re Only Human.

I’ve been a mom now for almost 14 months. And in those 14 months, I’ve made mistakes, tried to stick to a schedule, cried, laughed, didn’t know what to do, and have had “mom brain” more than I can count.

I’ve also figured out my parenting style and what I’m ok with and what I’m not ok with. I’ve made a little list of things I wish I had known over the last year, that would have saved me a lot of guilt in thinking I was being a bad mother.

1. It’s ok to take a break.
   When Little Miss was a newborn, I felt so guilty everytime I put her down and got up to do anything. I only showered when A was home and he could hold her. It took me forever to get out the door because I was scared A wouldn’t know how to hold Little Miss the “correct” way. FYI when I say correct way, I meant my way, which was basically how you hold a baby.

2. Happy baby is a healthy baby.
  When Little Miss was in the hospital she had to be supplemented because she lost over a pound within 14 hours. I wasn’t happy because I strictly wanted to breastfeed, but at the time I just wanted to go home and I wanted her to be healthy. So from day one Little Miss was able to take a bottle. For two months I was back and forth between nursing, pumping and formula feeding. Because Little Miss was a bigger baby, she nursed longer, and every time I pumped she would drink that bottle the same day. It was quite sad to see my hardworking be gone within a day. When I made the decision to strictly formula feed, I felt like the worst mother ever. The one thing that only I could do for her, and I was going to stop doing it. However, it was what we both needed. I was able to feed her and know how much she was getting, I didn’t have to pump during her naps and I could nap too. Now I’m not saying babies shouldn’t be breastfed, but a formula fed baby and a nursed baby are just as healthy as the other.

3. Ask for help.
  So I didn’t actually do this, but I wished I did. I never wanted to ask for any kind of help. I was set on doing everything myself because I’m the mom and a mom should be able to handle everything. As soon as A went back to work,  it took a while to get on a daily schedule but I want the help because I thought I would figure it out quick. It took forever to do anything and I was exhausted.

4. Keeping and daily schedule.
  So this lasted for maybe 4 months, once I thought I had it figured out, Little Miss changed it up on me. Every. Single. Time. After so long I honestly got tired of getting aggravated that Little Miss wasn’t eating lunch at the exact time she did the last week. Who cares. As long as she eats, has normal diapers, gets a bath and is safe. No schedule needed here. That doesn’t mean I just do whatever with her. We have a flexible schedule but I’m definitely not as uptight as I was last year. Seriously does anyone set alarms on there phone to remind you that you need to feed your baby?

5. Stop comparing your baby to others.
I didn’t actually do this, I had people do it to Little Miss though. And it always made me uncomfortable. All baby’s develop at a different pace and they’ll crawl, roll over, walk etc when they’re ready. Little Miss did alot of things early. She sat up at 3 months, she had teeth coming in at 3 months, scooted around at 5 months, but didn’t actually walk til after her first birthday. If you sit there and compare your baby to another, all you’re going to do is make yourself think there is something wrong with your baby, or just make another mother feel uncomfortable.

Enjoy your little one, the time goes by so quick. But remember, you’re only human. It’s ok to cry, not know what you’re doing. It’s called motherly instinct. You’ll figure it out.

C

Family Tales · Mom Tales

Zoo Days in Minnesota.

If there’s anything Little Miss loves,  it’s zoos and animals. She’s at a perfect age where we can spend an afternoon at the zoo and she can have fun pointing and looking for the animals.

Minnesota has two zoos close to where we stayed. Como Zoo, which is a smaller zoo and is free, but welcomes donations., and the Minnesota Zoo which is huge and a little pricey but worth it.

We did Como Zoo one morning before A had to go to work. Since it’s small we were able to see all the animals within an hour. There’s also a little amusement park and conservatory attached to the zoo. We didn’t have alot of time so we couldn’t check out everything, but it’ll definitely be a place we take Little Miss to alot as she gets older.

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Minnesota Zoo was huge, definitely alot of walking, but not as many animals as I’ve seen at other zoos. I was kind of bummed when I found out they didn’t have zebras or giraffes. But the scenery was beautiful! They even had a farm area where they had cows and pigs. One of the pigs actually had a litter of piggies too.

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Visiting Paisley Park.

Last week, we decided to pay our respects to Prince and visit his home and now memorial place. It was actually only 25 minutes from our hotel. The cool thing about visiting was that you can’t actually stop on the street and take pictures, you have to park and walk on a trail through two tunnels.

The 2nd tunnel was full of chalk and spray print messages left by people saying their goodbyes.

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Once you walked through the tunnel, a fence about a couple hundred feet started and that’s where everyone left pictures, flowers, balloons, basically everything for him. The fence circled his house and you could walk about half way around his house and see the different views.

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Seeing his memorial was a very powerful thing to see, it was amazing to see the love and respect left for him by so many people. It’s hard to even say it was cool to see given the circumstances.

C

Family Tales · Mom Tales

Sea Life Aquarium and More at the Mall of America.

We’re back home, it’s nice to be home and not in a hotel. But we loved Minnesota way more than we thought and I’m already checking for flights for August for the Minnesota State Fair.

Little Miss is way to comfy right now in her crib so I figured since I have piles of laundry and tons of bottles to get washed, I should start getting these blog posts writen to share. Makes sense right? Seriously who wants to clean after traveling back home?

The Mall of America was obviously one of the places we had to go to, and it was 5 minutes from our hotel, so we ended up going there a lot during the week. The first trip to the mall was actually to go to the aquarium. Sea Life Aquarium is locate in the lower level of the mall and by far the coolest aquarium I have ever been too. Little Miss just LOVES fish and fish tanks. I’m not sure if it’s because of the colors or how quick the fish move, but everytime she sees a tank she has to point it out.
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The nice thing about most of the things we did in the mall, was Little Miss was free because of her age. The aquarium starts off with a huge open tank of stingrays that you can pet and even feed. As you follow the halls through the aquarium, everything is set up like a maze and sections. We went from stingrays, to jelly fish, to sea horses, and my favorite part was the huge tunnel aquariums full of sharks, turtles, and every kind of fish you can think of.

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When we got to the tunnel part, Little Miss was so amazed that everywhere she looked she had fish around her! The tunnels were actually set up by different ocean areas to teach you what kind of fish are in what parts of the world and oceans and even rivers.

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The Mall of America also has an amusement park which is what it’s known for, it was a bit overwhelming and unfortunately Little Miss was a bit to little for more than half the rides there. We were still able to go on a couple kiddie rides and even walking around was fun because she had never been to an amusement park.

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There’s also a Lego Land inside, but again since Little Miss is to small we just walked by, but the giant figures made of Legos was pretty awesome.

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There’s so many shops and things to see in the Mall of America, we literally were there 4 times this week and each trip we found something new or found a new shop to check out.

It’ll definitely be a place we go as Little Miss gets older and can understand more where she’s at and hopefully she’s a dare devil like her mama and wants to check out a few of the roller coasters.

 

Mom Tales

Minnesota Loving.

What a week it has been here in Minnesota! 
I can’t believe we’re going home tomorrow. We did so much since we’ve been here but I feel like there’s still so much to do, places to go, things to see.

Little Miss is taking a decent nap right now and I’ve been trying to figure out how I’m going to blog this vacation. Truthfully I was going to make one big post but realistically it would be way to long and no one would actually ready through it.

So instead, I’m going to be posting our trip in multiple posts, I should have done this at the end of each day, but I was way to tired to stare at my phone. Plus I unplugged myself during the day.

So with this post, here’s how our first flight with a toddler went Tuesday morning.
First, thank goodness my mom suggested bringing the stroller because we got through security so much quicker. Some goldfish and Little Miss was having the time of her life sitting back and people watching.

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The good thing about our flight was that it was during a perfect time that Little Miss usually takes her nap. I was able to give her a pouch and her bottle right before we boarded the plan. Throw in a minor tantrum, which I can’t blame her, we were waiting for an hour and she just wanted to explore.

Since she is under two years old, I was able to hold her on my lap and not have to pay for a seat for her. By the time we sat down and the plane started moving Little Miss was out like a light. Being an hour and a half flight, she slept the whole time.

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I had purchased a few active books for her, stickers, Little toys, and other knick knacks that we ended up not even pulling out of the diaper bag.

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Some advice, don’t over pack your diaper bag. It’s a real pain in the ass to have on the floor on the plane.

C

Craft Tales · Mom Tales

Mother’s Day Craft..Epic Pinterest Fail.

For Mother’s Day, Little Miss and I decided to maker her Nana and Fairy Godmama a gift. I had come across one of the coolest crafts ever on Pinterest the week before Mother’s Day. A photo collage flower pot. Super easy too. Paint a flower pot, use modge podge to attach photos and fill it with flowers.

I decided to spray paint the pot and use fake flowers to fill them as well.
Once the spray painted dried though, the mode podge wouldn’t stick to the pot. Should have known because it was a glossy finish spray paint.

So instead, I left the pots spray painted, filled them with sunflowers and stuck my favorite picture of each of them with Little Miss in there. We also hid a few little butterflies in there.

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So it wasn’t exactly how I would have liked them to come out, but atleast I know not to use spray paint with modge podge. And Little Miss gave her Nana and Fairy Godmama a handmade present.

C

Mom Tales

Rainy Day Grunge.

As a stay home mom, I find myself living in comfy pants and t-shirts. Add in the horrible weather we’ve been having, causing us to be home alot, what’s the point of adding to the laundry pile and wasting makeup?

Well this mama is tired of being in her bum clothes and is ready to go back to her fun outfits.

It’s still a gloomy day, but it’s not cold or rainy so Little Miss and I are getting out today. Which means I finally get to put myself together and feel great about myself.

Can you seriously go wrong with a pair of Doc Martens and a good lipstick?

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C

Family Tales · Mom Tales

Flying With A Toddler.

I’m so excited we’re on the finally week countdown to going to Minnesota! Since it’s the first time flying with Little Miss I’ve been trying to get everything in order that needs to be done. What do we need for the airport? How am I going to keep her busy on the plane? How will she react to the ride? What do I need to bring for a 5 day vacation?

So to help me keep sane, and if anyone needs a couple of ideas on packing and thinking, this is what I’ve done/figured out so far.

Since Little Miss doesn’t need a plane ticket, she’ll be sitting on my lap, I need proof of who she is and that it’s ok she’s flying. A copy of a birth certificate is actually all she needs. So that’s one question answered.
Next is what to pack, how much to pack. The nice thing about our trip is that A is going to be driving to Minnesota the day before, so he’s going to be bringing one of our suitcases with her bottles,diapers etc with him. So that just leaves Little Miss’ clothes. And we all know how messy toddlers can be. Seriously, I put 3 different pairs of pajamas on her tonight alone.
So I’ll most likely just pack way more clothes than I even need to because I don’t know the weather, what days we’re going to be outside. And honestly, she needs a selection. Maybe I don’t want her to wear purple one of the days. No shame in having choices.

Throw in a few extra toys, a couple Disney DVDs for our nights back in the hotel and we’re pretty set.

Except for what I’ll actually need. I’m naturally an over packer and a procrastinator when it comes to packing. I know me, Mrs. I plan everything months in advance, I pack an hour before I need to leave.

The biggest thing for me to figure out is surprisingly her diaper bag. I pack her bag almost everyday and now I’m wondering what else I need to bring.

Any tips for flying with a toddler for the first time?

C

Mom Tales

When You Think You Have It Figured Out, Think Again.

Any first time mom’s or mom’s remember when you had your little one on the perfect schedule? Wake up, diaper,breakfast, nap etc. ?

I’ve had Little Miss on a schedule since the day I brought her home. I knew what time I needed to feed her, what time I had to pump when I was nursing, I think I one point I knew when she would need a diaper.
Fast forward 4 months when we started her on cereal, then again when we started her on baby food, and again when we started her on solids.

I couldn’t believe how easy it was to keep her on a schedule! I didn’t understand how parents would say they couldn’t keep their baby/toddler on a schedule, it’s easy right? Umm, nope. Not at all. Not anymore. This mama right here is the 1st to raise her hand and tell you once you think you got your kid figured out they go and mess it all up.

Little Miss is at that wonderful phase where she has her molars cutting in right now, she has 12 teeth as of last night! And she wants nothing to do with any food or meals I try to give her. Breakfast she’s great with because it’s the first meal of the day. Then, assuming she’s hungry in 4 hours because that’s been her schedule for months now, she wants nothing to do with nothing.

The wonderful perks of being a first time mom and figuring out when your child needs to eat as opposed to forcing them a meal instead of just letting them let you know they’re hungry.

Seriously, I think this is definitely that hardest part of parenting right now. I catch myself looking at Little Miss thinking, why and how are you not hungry?, but it’s a learning process I suppose. A stressful process at that.

I can’t really be to concerned though if she’s drinking her milk though right? And it’s not like she’s not eating at all. She just seems to pick and choose what she wants, when she wants. Hence why I have smashed goldfish crackers in my carpet. I love my vacuum cleaner more and more each day.

At this point, as much as I love being that scheduled mom and always on top of everything, I’m way to tired to be making multiple meals a day just for it to end up on the floor. Little Miss wants two crackers and oranges for dinner? Cool, go for it Toots, drink your milk and you have most of the food groups in your meal.

C

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Rewarding Days.

We had scary two days this week, which ended in a visit to the emergency room. Thankfully, nothing is wrong with Little Miss and I just had the case of ” 1st time momitis” ( all those episodes of Doc McStuffin are really starting to sink in).

After two days of worrying and trying to figure out what could possibly be wrong with Little Miss, I made today all about her and the fun we can have. Since the weather is finally getting nice out, we went out for lunch to our favorite hot dog place, took a trip to the toy store for a new stroller, went to a new park, and played outside with chalk. Talk about an adventure day for a toddler.

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As Little Miss get older and the weather gets nicer, going to the park is so much fun. She laughs and screams on the swings, wants to walk around and touch everything, and even points to what she wants to go by. Hello big girl who wants to go down the slide!

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Luckily, being outside and out and bout all day means long naps, which means I can start getting things ready for our vacation to Minnesota coming up this month. Do you know how hard it is to make a packing list, figure out reservations, places to go, and things to do when you’re bringing a toddler? Throw in a first airplane ride for a toddler, this mama is completely overwhelmed. How many outfits do I bring for her? Bottles? Food? Extra everything? But because I’m me, I’m figuring all of that out now, with plenty of time before we actually have to leave for the airport (try 11 days), yes I’m a huge over planner and I plan everything way to far in advanced. Better to be way over packed than forgetting everything I suppose!

The wonderful thing about the stress of planning a vacation is the fact I do get even more blogs to write about them, and of course the excitement of going to a new place and seeing new things, especially being able to enjoy them as a family.

So forgive me if my posts are few and short for the next week. You can keep up with us on Instagram @Momandthefairytales

C