If you’re friends with me on my personal Facebook page or Instagram, or even know me personally, you’ll know being a stay at home is a blessing for me. I did go back to work for a few months part time and it was incredibly hard being away from Little Miss and truthfully it was exhausting. Getting up at 6 working til 1 and then being mommy again and doing that Monday-Friday.
Don’t get me wrong working moms, I don’t know how you do it. Maybe your kids are older and they’re in school so your working schedule makes life easier.
But for the ones who sit there and say stay home moms aren’t real mom’s and don’t contribute to their homes or marriage need to take a step back. You may be a working mom, but you’ve been home with your toddlers and don’t even say it was easy.
As a stay home mom, I find myself worrying about what I’m going to feed Little Miss that day. That’s 3 meals plus snacks I have to come up with. And if you’ve had or have a toddler who decides they love grapes one day but hate them the next, you know how stressful eating time can be.
Eating time isn’t the only thing that can be stressful. How do you entertain a toddler 7 days a week? What if they get bored? It’s not like you can ask them what they want to do. Yes it’s fun to be able to go to the zoo during the week, and my personal favorite is a rainy day with movies and forts. But it’s not like we can do that everyday, how quick do they get bored with that?
So, I stay home all day, maybe do laundry, maybe the dishes. Yea no, I do laundry 4 days a week. And when I say do laundry, it’s washed, dried, folded and put away. No piles left on the floor, table or in basket. I never go to bed with dirty dishes in the sink. Theres no toys all over the floors when I go to bed. But I’m a stay home mom, I don’t do anything right?
Ok, so let’s talk about being a stay home mom is a 24/7 job with no paycheck. My goodness do I miss making my own money. My husband works 60 plus hours a week, misses alot of the firsts for our daughter, pays for every single bill and still finds a way to let me go out and buy things I want or need. And guess what, never have I ever once heard him complain about it. And believe me I’ve asked him because I was very much willing to find work to not have so much pressure on his shoulders. In his line of work, he is not guaranteed a paycheck nor a set amount of money each week. He makes money when we works.
The time he does get with our daughter is even more special. All the hard work he does for me and Little Miss is so she can have the best life and be taught what hard work is and how to have an excellent work ethic.
Me not working also means not having to put our daughter in daycare. Between how expensive it is and how often kids get sick, it’s not worth her being there.
Believe me, I have my moments where I wish I was a working mom and get to drive to work and listen to the radio and not playing the Doc Mcstuffins soundtrack on repeat. I wish I could have my breakfast and not have a toddler running up to me to get a bite. I also know because I don’t work and I’m lucky to be able to be with her everyday, I don’t miss anything. I’ve seen her first time rolling over, crawling, standing up and walking.
There will always be sides on why being a working mom is better or why being a stay home mom is better. Guess what, neither of them is better. In the end we’re all moms. We’re all raising our kids to be good people. So stop the mom shaming. You’re not better than another mom. Sitting there and listing why and how your life is just so “perfect” is all bullshit. And you know it.