They say you really know who your true friends are when you’re really in need of a friend. Whose been there for you in your darkest times? Or who is just there when you’re the last person they text because their bored? If a friend can’t take the time to see how you’re doing, especially when you know they’re on their phone non-stop, are they really a friend?
I try to keep my business off social media, minus whatever me and Little Miss are doing because truthfully I don’t need an audience to see if I’m going to break. I don’t over brag on how blessed and lucky I am. Once in a while I’ll post that yes I am blessed with my little family, but I don’t need to go into huge long status’ to explain it. If you’re really my friend, you know how much I enjoy my life, even when it does get hard.
I recently decided to pull myself away from a handful of people who I had once thought would be people I could turn to for anything. That feeling started to change a few months ago and that’s ok. You don’t have to be friends with every single person you meet. However, you cannot claim one thing and be another. Don’t claim to be a friend if you don’t make the effort especially after months of having my effort put to you.
I can count on one hand of who I truly consider a real friend. If you would have asked me 4 years ago, it would have been two hands. People grow apart. Should I feel bad I decided to not invite some of those people to mine and A’s going away party? Absolutely not. Should I feel guilty that I went on a Facebook unfriend binge? Not at all.
Social media shouldn’t define you, your real friends will still be there and upstand why you unfriended so many of your mutual friends. Why should you feel like you need to be friends with anyone you really haven’t even gotten to know? Because you have mutual friends? That’s silly. Because you knew them in high school and have only seen them once since then? That’s sillier.
I feel like there’s people out there who “collect” Facebook friends just to get the extra likes ok a photo, or even worse and annoying, to try to sell you whatever it is they claim to make so much money selling. Stop. Seriously.
Is it hard to know someone you considered your best friend now ignores you for some unknown reason? Absolutely. Am I crying over it? Not at all. That was their choice. We’re all adults here, some more than others.
I refuse to let others make me question if I’m a good friend or not. I’m a wife, a mother and a daughter first. There’s a reason I can count my real friends on one hand. Those people get it and don’t question my friendship. They know I’ll always answer their call. They know I’ll always be there if they need me. They know if they want to hang out they get to hang out with me and Little Miss unless we plan something ahead of time for me to get a babysitter.
I’m not at all saying in order to be friends you have to hang out all the time. I have alot of friends I haven’t seen from years, but I enjoy seeing pictures of their kids as they’re growing up and seeing how incredibly happy they are. Would it be nice to see more of these friends a little more than twice a year? Of course! But life happens and luckily Facebook makes it easy to see how good that long distance friend is doing.
You don’t lose friends, you just learn who your real friends are.