I’ve been a SAHM mom for almost two years now. I went from working full time and getting a full time paycheck to working 24/7 and not getting a paycheck. However, I get to enjoy everyday with London, watch her play and learn, I see every moment of her life, while Arthur works hard to allow me to stay home. Like any mom, I have my moments where I just want a break. I want a day to myself where I don’t have to give London six different snacks before she picks what she wants. I want a day where I can eat junk food and not have to worry about making sure I gave my kid enough fruits and veggies for the day. I want a day to not have to pick up the same toys multiple times from morning til night. But that’s what a SAHM does. I may have those moments, but at the end of the day, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’ve been trying to find my “groove” on what works for this house and what doesn’t. Not everyday is going to be the same. Not everyday is going to be a bad. Not everyday is going to be easy. But I’m responsible for London every single day, and it’s my job to make sure each day she is learning, having fun, and has a full belly. I was able to come up with a few pointers on how to make sure my daily schedule goes as smoothly as it can, because we all know when a toddler doesn’t get the right cup at lunch it’s the end of the world. Maybe these can help you if you’re feeling like you’re in a rut being home with your littles.
Get up and get dressed.
Seriously. Get up and get dressed right away. While staying in pajamas is fun, ok we only stay in pajamas if it’s ridiculously cold outside, how are you supposed to get through your day while in your pajamas feeling like you’re ready for bed? Put on a pair of your favorite leggings, a comfy sweater and slippers. Do your make up. I’m not talking full on date night makeup. Through on some mascara and your favorite lipstick. Trust me, you will feel great starting your day off looking great! While you’re at it, get the Littles dressed too. I know London loves when I do my makeup in the bathroom because she knows she’s going to leave with a little lipstick on to show daddy.
Planners, Lists, and Meal Planning.
My FAVORITE thing to do. If you know me personally, or have been following my blog, you know how much I loved lists and my planner. I make a list for everything, clearly see the Bucket Lists above. Each week I like to fill out my planner with fun things for London and I to do, meals, bills, and important dates. I also do my weekly meal planning on our refrigerator. Meal planning for a week is incredibly convenient when it comes to having a toddler and the last thing you want to do is have a rough day and then think about what you’re going to make for dinner at 4pm. Each week, I make a grocery list as well for my weekly meal planning, these lists are just my “basics” for my meals. Meats, veggies, and sides. Once a month I do my “big” shopping trip and stock up everything I’ll need for the month that isn’t perishable.
I like to make a separate list of things I want to do with London too. Crafts to make, new places to go, anything really. This is my way of always having something to do, especially on the days where I’m not feeling creative and “there’s nothing to do.” There’s always something to do.
Change It Up.
There’s nothing more boring than feeling like you’re doing the same thing, day after day. Like how boring is it to wake up, have breakfast, watch tv, make dinner, and go to bed. If you’re bored with your day, chances are so is your toddler. Change it up. Instead of having breakfast at the kitchen table, have a picnic and watch a cartoon. Have no tv for a day and spend the day playing with every single toy your Little owns. Have a day of just crafts. Have breakfast for dinner. There are so many ways you can change up your day, without throwing your Little completely off.
Because we all love chores. I cannot stand a mess anywhere in my house, even with a toddler, I’m one of those crazies that has to clean my house numerous times a day even though I know it’ll be a mess in less than an hour. However, if you make a daily or weekly list of chores that need to be done you won’t feel so overwhelmed by making sure your house is cleaned up. I have my days where I just want to power clean and get everything done, but I can’t do that every week. Instead, I make sure I have daily chores that need to be done, and weekly chores to be done. My dailies include never leaving dishes in the sink. Waking up to a sink full of dishes is one of my biggest pet peeves. So throughout the day, I’m always putting our dirty dishes into the dishwasher. Sometimes it does get run twice a day, but it’s better than having dirty dishes and no clean sippy cups. I also make it a point to sweep the kitchen each day. We all know that toddlers are just tiny crumb leavers. My weeklies include laundry of course, a good wipe down of the bathrooms, vacuuming, and dusting.
Make goals with a time frame.
I love having goals to hit. It’s my own way of making sure I’m accomplishing something for myself. I make goals for myself each month to hit that month. They aren’t crazy and achievable goals either. Most of my goals are revolved around my everyday life, just in case I have a day where “I don’t feel like anything”, umm no, that’s not allowed. You can check out my January Goals.
We all look forward to our “Me Time.” Mine is always at night right after London goes to bed. I make myself a cup of hot chocolate, grab a blanket and get comfy on the couch with the fire going. Depending on the night, sometimes I have a book to fall into or I binge watch my favorite show or watch a movie. I also use nap time as my Me Time to look over our week, meals, find new recipes and work on a few goals.
Yes. Put your phone down. Social media will still be there during nap time or bed time. That moment your Little just did something hilarious you missed, is gone. Give your Little all the attention. They deserve it.
As a SAHM, it’s easy to find yourself feeling like you’re only a servant to your toddler. You’re more than that. You keep your household running. If you’re blessed to stay home with your Littles, enjoy each and everyday no matter how rough they start. These days won’t last forever and eventually your Little won’t be little anymore.
What about you, Mama? How do you keep your days sane for you and fun for your Little?